Happy New YOU!

 

You must be bracing yourself for the fireworks, parties and toasting at the end of the year.  But I know more than that, you are now mapping out the self evolution plan that you'd wish to happen in your life next year. New Year's Resolution is the most popular word every 31st of December.  Everyone  musters courage to make a long list of what to change in themselves for the next year. All of us want a brand new ME. To stop smoking, to stop drinking, to be more proactive, to live healthy- these are all some of the I-promise-to-do- next year in an audacious attempt to turn a new leaf. But the term New Year's Resolution can be too limited and short lived ( admit it or not.) And no guarantee of a metamorphosis happening,though sometimes, it beckons in the beginning. And yet like a tired voice it trails off as you go farther away.

I'm not implying that New Year's Resolution is a misnomer. But  the term has received a lot of beatings already since it has become disrespected, crashed, overused and abused. Plus the term itself is like a taser that sends some kind of small doses of electricity to your psychological mind which puts a lot self pressure once you revert back to your old habits not to mention that the voltage of electricity increases once guilt feelings set in.

Truthfully, who remembers your air tight promises for your New Year's Resolution in April? August? or even in October? This is why I swept out the term New Year's Resolution in favor of self evolution-a term that I deem is more appropriate, long lasting, result related and brings a transformation of a new self.

Just think about how you would want to repackage yourself for the coming year. Don't sweat it out for now. You still have until midnight of the 31st of December to ruminate about how to evolve into a new you this 2014. To help you  define your  self-evolution goals this coming year, I have gathered some terms which might enlighten you up  or give you an idea where to start. If anything else, at least remind you that there are such words exist in the dictionary. All you have to do is to use it in your new life. 

 

Here it goes:

regroup, decompress, refocus, realign, transformation, renew, redesign, replan, redefine, relive, recreate, rejuvenate, restart, resolve, rekindle, rebuild, redo, recovery, restoration, revive, reaffirm, reawaken, reestablish and change. I can go on and on until I use up all the words from my best friends- Thesaurus and Webster. If you have more in mind, write them down, the more  words the happier your new self will be.

Most of the words listed above begin with the prefix re which means to do it again. Clearly, we all may have accomplished these actions before but it isn't bad to do it all over again for the betterment of ourselves.  Nobody stops us to give it another shot. After all, the new year is all about rebirth and not to get stuck up with the old ways and habits we intend to leave behind.

And if just in case the message of this blog isn't clear enough? Feel free to reread it. It won't hurt to do it all over again.

Happy New Year! A brand new YOU is about to begin. Let's start now.

J

When You're Desperate Or Not So Desperate To Find Mr. Right.

" Why can't I have a normal boyfriend? Just a regular boyfriend, one that doesn't go nuts on me!" Remember that line from the movie "As Good As It Gets?" That was Helen Hunt as Caroll Connely  who said it. One way or another,we all have this Caroll Conelly moments after several hit or miss attempts in finding Mr. Right. 

Sometimes you think that you got lucky enough and claim that you got the jackpot, "He's the one." Yes, I found the him. Then, few months after, you get the surprise of your life when you sulk in a corner sobbing or  whacking your head with the palm of your hand  "Damn, what was I thinking?" 

 Despite the potential Mr. Right's display of -he's- not- into- you- red- flag- sign, what's outrageous is that you still relentlessly float on cloud nine with your delusion that he's Mr. Right for you.

Now what were you really thinking?

Pursuing a relationship with Mr. Wrong (who according to your delusion is Mr. Right) is like jumping in a murky water and expect that water is safe enough to drink. Now let me ask you again, what were you really thinking?

 I know that all of us make bad choices or simply choices that we thought are good for us but eventually turned out bad choices just the same. Nobody is exempted. I'm guilty as charged (not once not twice but for the umpteenth time. Yes, I'm an experienced pro on this one.)

 But choices made out of sheer desperation and impulsiveness to find Mr. Right is downright pathetic and a sign of hopelessness beckoning. And yet most of you consciously or unconsciously do because you are desperate to find Mr. Right.

For various reasons, whether out of self pressure or peer pressure or because of feeling of bereft, you do things that are out of your character  just to turn your personal love conquest  into a fairy tale romance spruced up with happily ever after ending.

Unfortunately, finding the elusive Mr. Right is like shooting your target in a pitch dark room where you'll surely end up missing more than hitting the target. Even if you ask a fairy godmother to twirl her magic wand and send you Mr. Right knocking at your door with a bunch of pretty red roses, it's still not going to happen unless the timing is right.You want that man so badly and you convince  yourself and justify that he's the one when your wit  and gut feel agree that he's not.

 

 So you push to the limit to please him. Call him incessantly. Send IM messages every hour. Check his FB activities ( almost like stalking him) stressing out waiting for his call and reply on your countless messages. Before you know it, there goes your self-respect and dignity down the drain. 

Now, tell me, is it really worth it? Seriously? I don't think so. Realistically, the flow of nature directs you that the more you push it to happen the more it's not going to happen. Whatever you do to lure him in your arms  if he is not into you, you'll end up being frustrated and broken hearted.  

I'm not saying that you give up in finding Mr. Dream Man. The author of the book "A Bride for Mr. Darcy" Mary Lyndon Simonsen imaginatively claimed “‎There is nothing sweeter than finding the right person to love and cherish and to share your hopes and dreams with.”

 I agree. But going overboard is a different story. Don't just grab the wrong man just because you're impatient to wait for God's special gift for you. Never compromise and let your guard down at any point. That's when you start losing your self respect and self-worth.

 

Love yourself first. Loving yourself will give you a stronger leverage to bargain yourself with the man you're longing for. When you are not afraid to conquer life on your own, your value increases twice as much. There's no need to worry about Mr. Beautiful. He's as anxious as you are in finding the right one for him.

 

 Trust me. God is a great match maker. He knows who's the perfect one for you. However, He wants you to be perfect for him too. So start taking care of your beautiful self so you will be capable of loving your future man. You are worthy way more than what you think. Your value is priceless.  And you deserve a priceless value too.

When the time is right, you'll be amazed that a magical force will bring Mr. Beautiful to you unexpectedly sweeping you off your feet as forest  flowers unfold it's natural beauty. You won't need an alignment of stars or throw coins to make your wish come true. 

 Not unless you're wishing for a normal boyfriend. But be as it may, it's still thousand times worth the wait.

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There's More to Teaching Than What We Know

Being around not with your own biological children every single day and yet act more than just a mother and less than a baby sitter is a challenging feat. There is more than just a responsibility that goes beyond than making sure the student you handle is safe within your care. 

Once students get entrusted to a teacher, the students are hers. It is indeed the prime priority of a teacher to instill learning to children of all ages the basic knowledge that they can use to build a sound future for themselves. 

Moreover, it is supposedly the teacher's paramount goal to discover or rediscover for that matter, a student's inner potentials and skills that he can not only utilize for a bright future but to equip themselves with the basic survival skills in life.

It is indeed a tough job and yet in most places, underpaid.  Just like the soldiers, teachers deprive themselves with a big fraction of their personal time to serve and lay out a solid ground for a student's future -a binding selfless commitment of sharing a part of themselves. 

However, teachers are human too. They are not made of unbreakable steel. They falter, err and struggle with personal issues. And yet, carry themselves with invincible and vigorous bearing to inspire young souls yearning for hope that their aspirations will come to fruition one day .

It's amazing what teachers can do. With an immeasurable amount of self sacrifice, commitment and dedication to their profession, they can make you go farther than what you can envision

Suffice it to say, that teaching is more than just a vocation, it is a pledge that one professional commits to himself never to stop giving up on a student until he becomes the person he wants to be.

To all individuals who touch the hearts of students through teaching, let your light shine the path where your students should go.  Never forget that for each soul that you guide will always be well worth the effort at the end of the day.

Happy World's Teachers Day!