Will
you go all the way? Or will you test the waters first before you dip your toes?
People do all sorts of
things when they fall in love especially us women. I admit , I am one of them. I
do outrageous non-conventional stuff for
love but one thing I won’t do and will never do is to kill myself for anybody.
Oh, no way!
I’ve heard atrocious stories
how women go to great lengths as allowing their partners to have flings, flirt
or one night stand or much worse a side affair just to keep the man. Ok…I won’t
do that either.
But it’s true that when a
man started to sweep us off our feet and starts showing care, attention and love, then the battle is over. He has
totally captured our hearts. And that’s when we go gaga over him, and go head over
heels to the man who we thought is the “one” for us.
I think, most of women
believe in a fairy tale existing in real life. That one day a knight in shining
armour will come to rescue us from the dark castle or the frog we kiss will
turn out to be our prince charming.
Nothing wrong with that I
guess. I did kiss several frogs that didn’t turn out to be my prince charming
but instead remained to be toads, thankfully.
When one love fail, we
keep on trying and searching for the one for us.
Some women not all though,
change a part of themselves to be liked more by their partners. Some shower
them with material things and pamper them or stroke a man’s ego to hold him to
stay in a relationship.
It continues to puzzle me
why do we push the magic of love to happen by doing an extra mile for the
object of our affection? Doesn’t it take
two to make it happen? If there’s only you to push the relationship forward,
sooner or later, you’ll get tired and feel sorry for yourself until you ask
yourself a silent question, “ Why am I doing this?”
When you see a man’s signs
that he’s not into you, stop right there and smack yourself in the head. Promise.You’ll
thank me for suggesting this. At least I saved you for further emotional and
financial disaster. A man who loves you truly will move mountains and risk
himself to be with you. Plain and simple. If you have started spoiling him with
material things or you get him used that
you’re the one giving more of your emotions and time, remember that you will
only be good as long as you give. If you got nothing more to spare, then
chances are, he’ll turn cold or worse leave you either abruptly or gradually.
Women basically are prone
to be deceived by superficial "love like" affections or even deception by men. Not because women
are naïve and gullible human beings. But simply because we believe in “they-live-happily-ever-after”
fairy tale stories.
Don’t we all wish that to
happen in every relationship we have?
In a wedding when a bride
dons a wedding dress.... fully dolled up, doesn’t she feel like a princess who
found the prince who'll marry her and take her to a horse carriage headed to his
castle? Tell me if I’m wrong, every woman yearns to wear the wedding dress of
her dreams. During my first wedding, I
concentrated more on how the wedding dress would look like more than how my
marriage would be like. Eleven years after, the fairy tale marriage failed to have a happy ending.
It’s our nature I guess,
as women to fantasize as princesses eversince
we
were little girls. But the truth is, we must realize that love is a two
way
thing. We should always receive the love we deserve without compromising
ourselves and let alone losing our self respect and dignity. Love comes
freely and unselfishly given without anything expected in return or
without changing the person to fit to the image of one's ideal partner.
A certain post on Facebook caught my attention and I memorized it by heart it says " If love and affection are not given freely, then it's not worth having."
Don’t give up on love even
if you fail for the umpteenth times. The
fairy tale that you hope for will surely become a reality, in just a matter of
time.
Love yourself more and be
happy on this Valentine’s day.
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